Admiration

Once in our lifetime, off course we had ever been admiring someone. It might caused by his/her appearance, attitude, character, or even more because everything she/he had done to us. When it happened, what should we do? Be a secret admirer ? Or just let him/her know our feelings by expressing it without an obligation?

If we decide to express it, would it make any difference in that relationship later?

I didn’t know exactly what makes the difference between been attracted and admiring someone. But feelings usually can tell no lie. In some cases, we just cannot even let somebody else know that because maybe it shouldn’t been expressed anyway. I do remember Zhang Ziyi’s quote; “Men are different. When they are in love they may also have other girlfriends.” Not to be so defensive, but I’d like to clarify that may be a man was able to be attracted by someone else though they had already have girlfriend or someone special but it’s just only an admiration. Most of men could be so cruel and cheat on his girlfriend by giving his heart to someone else. But some of them did not do that.

I met many pretty friend, and I admired some of them because her beauty and character. But I feel more comfort to spend all my time with someone who loves me like I do. Someone that could understand and give no complain about my weakness.

In my humble opinion, we can express our feelings / admiration to someone without any obligation nor even give any bad effect on the relationship later just by a proportional way. We just have to know someone that we admired better then we’ll see how to express our feelings wisely.

Anyway, we should not fall in love with someone because his/her beauty, but we’ll be able to see someone’s real beauty by truly loving him/her.